Your Groom Speech – 5 Ideas for Success
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I’ve observed lots of groom’s speeches, and there often seems to be that moment of hesitation and uncertainty by the groom. This is definitely a mistake you should do your best to avoid.
Let us start with some general suggestions for delivering any speech at a wedding ceremony.
What To Do When You Give your Groom’s Speech
- Keep it clear, straight forward, and simple
- Keep it short. Three or four minutes is sufficient
- Write down down the major points on a piece of paper or a card
- Smile at the members of your audience. This is a fun event.
- Be sure not to look grim, like it’s a funeral.
- Speak clearly and loudly. Maintain your voice at a volume where everyone can hear. If there is a microphone, use it.
Do Not Do These During the Groom Speech
- Don’t mumble
- When speaking, do not stare downward or look at the ceiling
- Do not write out the entire speech, word for word. You just need some thoughts to keep you moving from one point to the next.
There are a couple basic things that men fear most: commitment, and public speaking. While this article won’t help you with the first one, it can be assumed that since you’re getting married, you’ve already overcome the commitment issue. So, that leaves public speaking, and it’s a lot easier than you think.
There are five things you must put in your groom speech in order to be considered a success -
Five Tips for the Groom’s Speech
- Be nice. Say complimentary, nice things about your wife.
- Don’t tell jokes, unless they have a positive tone to them. Remember, you have an upcoming honeymoon, the in-laws, and the rest of your life together to consider. Humor can play an important role in any speech, therefore, we will cover this topic in much greater detail in future articles.
- Do thank your new bride’s family. You will most likely be involved with them the rest of your life, so you do want to start off on the right foot by showing your gratitude to them.
- If you do not like your wife’s in-laws, just thank them for their support and move along.
- If indeed you do like your wife’s in-laws, then by all means express your appreciation and fondness for them. You can also thank them for inviting you into their family.
- If there was any financial contribution offered by your new wife’s family, now is the time to say thank you for their support.
- Thank friends and family for coming to celebrate your wedding, and sharing the day with you.
- Thank the Father of the Bride.
Your grooms speech is delivered right after the Father of the Bride speech, which customarily comes first.
This gives you the opportunity to play off that speech and continue by thanking him for his kind words; then begin your speech right after him.
A Short Example
“Thanks, Robert, for your supportive words. I am honored and proud to be your new son-in-law. I hope I can live up to what you expect from me. I would also like to thank my mother-in-law, Janice, who has always made me feel like a member of the family starting from when we first met, and for helping make our wedding and reception a success. I would like to give my thanks to both of you for allowing me to marry your beautiful daughter, Alison.”
With this brief excerpt, you have: You have thanked the bride’s family, mentioned their contribution to the wedding, spoken favorably about your new bride, and come off like an all ’round great guy to your audience. And, that was just the introduction to your groom speech.