The wedding articles say that over 80% of grooms are at least equal partners in the wedding planning process. So, of course, the wedding industry is catering to this group of men who have decided to own the wedding planning process. Is this because average grooms are older than they used to be – and therefore pickier and more set in their ways? Is it because most couples cohabitate before they marry, meaning they are paying for more of the wedding than they used to?
Whatever the reason, the Internet is full of stories of grooms who became completely caught up in the wedding planning process, and are just as hard to please and soothe as those famous Bridezillas that they like to make television programs about. So, if you end up with one of these, how do you deal with him? Well, you have choices.
You can let him have whatever he wants. Let him control the whole thing. Let him pick the flowers, the food, the table settings, the cake flavor, and even your dress. What? No!
You can test his fortitude. Is he a real Groomzilla, or is he playing at this? Take him to a bridal show. Make him read all the bridal magazines with you. Completely inundate him with wedding stuff. He might very well cry uncle.
If he doesn’t? Then it looks like you’ve got a partner for good. Enjoy planning this special day with him and realize that if you can’t do this together, you’re probably not going to be very good at living together, raising kids together, and functioning as a couple. It’s a good litmus test for the rest of your marriage.