The Truth About Bridesmaids Dresses
“You will be able to wear it again”.
One of the biggest lies ever told about bridesmaids’ dresses. This tall tale has been passed on for ages and the time has come to put an end to it. It can be said that just about any woman, aged 30 and under, has had in her possession at least two bridesmaid’s dresses hanging in a dark corner, way in back of her closet. And what about the matching shoes? Let’s not even go there! In the past, especially up until the mid 80’s, bridesmaids dresses were easily recognized, due to their pastel colors, huge bows on the butt, shiny fabrics and profusion of lace oozing from every sleeve, collar and hem. We challenge these women to get up the nerve to wear these one-time wonders to any other function without feeling the least bit self-conscious. Yes, bridemaid’s dresses have evolved over the years; and most now can be described as being in some kind of in-between “style limbo“…not quite looking like a bridemaid’s dress, but still not something to be worn to any other important function. This is especially true if the bride’s circle of friends is small, and attend many of the same social events. Who wants to risk being seen in the same get-up?
The cold hard fact is this: No matter what she may tell you, bridesmaids dresses are more often than not, chosen by the bride and selected with only one day in mind: Her wedding day. This is hardwired into her bridal subconscious. She is unable to help herself, and so should be forgiven. Sure, she may feel guilty about the cost, but usually not at the expense of giving up her dream wedding ideas. Any potential bridesmaid should be aware of this, and if the request is reasonable enough, be prepared to “suck it up”.
However, this doesn’t leave the bride “off the hook” completely. She should be sensitive enough to consider each attendant’s best features, and choose colors, styles and fabrics that complement them as a whole. It may also be a wise move for the bride to organize a meeting and have a civilized group discussion prior to selection. Fabric swatches and a variety of styles should be made available for study; and if there are any out-of-town attendants, samples and photos should also be dispatched to them as quickly as possible. In this way, a consensus can be made.
Let’s face it: In all honesty, the odds of wearing these dresses again are most likely slim to none. However, the fun and hilarity that goes along with the dress selection process can create memories that will last a lifetime; and that for entertainment value alone, history will eventually show that it was a couple hundred of dollars well spent. Don’t believe me? Go back and take a look at your mother’s wedding album.